Everyday Jim and Teresa Major do the impossible.
They take their budget fit for two children and stretch it to provide for their brood of 12.
The Majors place their openness to life first and budget second, having faith that God will provide. And he has.
“Here I am everyday living the impossible,” said Teresa, who attends St. Louis King of France Church in Englewood. “So I know God exists.”
They call finances the “boogeyman that the devil holds up” to scare a couple into restricting their family size.
“Being open to having a big family is being open to faith from God,” Teresa said.
Families like the Majors, who are members of the Neocatechumenal Way catechumenate, said they’ve overcome fears and found the joys of a larger-than-life family.
Some are well aware of the secular world’s opinion that it’s financially irresponsible, maybe even negligent, to be open to more than one or two children.
Kali and Lane Reagan, who also attend St. Louis, will get stares over their four children. Reagan is expecting their fifth child in September.
“We get strange looks,” Kali said. “People have asked us if they were accidents or if we had them on purpose. Others have asked ‘Do you know what birth control is?’”
The Reagans have a different view.
Lane and Kali Reagan with their four children. They are expecting a baby in September.
“I think being open to life can mean so many different things,” Kali said. “For us it means five children. We’re happy to give up some of the things people think they can’t live without to have these kids.”
Budgeting to meet the needs of a growing family requires a more intentional approach to their spending, they said. They look at their budget and determine wants versus needs. They try to pay in cash. They won’t buy a new car until it’s a necessity. Going out to eat and the movies is an infrequent event. When they buy something new, they share it. The important thing is that they’re together, they said.
They love their oldest, 10-year-old Brooklyn, who keeps to herself, and Jersey, 6, and Staten, 3—their two other girls—who are “rambunctious and feisty.” The baby, 8-month-old Bronx, gets all the attention.
“For us the joy we get from our children is way more than you can put a monetary price on,” Kali said.
Lane, 33, added, “With God’s help anything is possible.”
Discovering God’s plan Eric and Delores Benedict of Immaculate Conception Church in Lafayette are no strangers to the fear of a large family.
After child No. 6 was born, relatives and doctors urged them to choose sterilization. Delores succumbed to pressure and decided to have a tubal ligation.
“My husband and I could just sexually satisfy ourselves. No guilt—no babies,” Delores told the Denver Catholic Register.
But their marital union felt empty and their marriage suffered.
“I didn’t want Eric to touch me. Without the possibility of a child, the act was meaningless. I was so sad.”
Then Delores discovered the Neocatechumenal Way at her parish, and she and her husband had a conversion of heart. They fell in love with Christ, they said.
Eric Benedict, center above, and his wife, Delores, to the right of Eric, and six of their 11 children seated at their dining room table.
After attending a liturgy with their Way community, Delores asked how she could find peace after choosing to be sterile. Their pastor advised them to consider a reversal.
“We decided it didn’t matter whether we had more kids or not, we were going to get the reversal done,” she said.
In 1995, her fallopian tubes were repaired. They were blessed with five more children.
Eric said being open to God’s plan may be difficult but “God has always, always provided.”
They shared their experiences with life in a letter addressed to the pope in April.
Delores said, “We chose life instead of material things. We put God first and he has provided for everything.”
The Majors had the same experience.
While it may be scary to be open to life, it’s only led to blessing after blessing for their family, Teresa said.
Being open to life has been a true walk of faith.
“The Christian has to know that God will provide. He has to know that. That’s what faith is,” Teresa said.
The Reagan Family’s Expenses Kali and Lane Reagan shared a breakdown of their regular monthly bills in providing for their four children. They trust that God will provide.
Typical month Groceries: $500 Target and CostCo for bulk items: $275 Diapers: $85 Clothing: $30-40 for miscellaneous needs Recreation for children: $140 Phones: $150 Cable: $150 Insurance: $150 Gas: $200 The family also pays for medical bills, car repairs, school tuition, parish tithing, birthday parties and entertainment. Free family activities in Denver Denver offers free activities and attractions for the whole family that won’t break the bank. Below is a list of ideas for this summer.
Red Rocks Amphitheatre and Park in Morrison—Visit the museum and Performers Hall of Fame or take a hike through the colorful red rocks of the park. Visit redrocksonline.com or call 720-865-2494.
Denver U.S. Mint downtown—Take an hour-long weekday tour of one of only two mints in the United States. Reservations required. Visit www.usmint.gov or call 303-405-4761.
Denver Art Museum downtown—See the latest art exhibits during the museum’s free days the first Saturday of the month. Families may play games in the galleries, make art or take a tour in Spanish. Visit www.denverartmuseum.org or call 720-865-5000.
Hammond’s Candy Factory in Denver—Satisfy the family’s sweet tooth with a behind-the-scenes tour of the candy factory. Visit www.hammondscandies.com or call 303-333-5588.
Washington Park in Denver—Enjoy the expansive lawns, gardens and lake at the 165-acre park ideal for picnics, games or relaxing in the sun. Visit www.denvergov.org/parksandrecreation.
Celestial Seasonings in Boulder—See first-hand the workings of a tea production plant at one of the company’s free tours. Visit www.celestialseasonings.com/tours or call 303-581-1266.
National Center for Atmospheric Research in Boulder—Learn about tornados, global warming, lightning and other acts of nature at its visitor center. Visit ncar.ucar.edu or call 303-497-1000.